Well first of all, let's put age to the side because age has really nothing to do with this.
The title brings attention. Anyways, if you had told me a year ago that I would meet someone 11 years younger than me, I would have told you to shut the hell up and keep it moving. But this is beginning of new version of zenobia and I am exploring different avenues of men that I would have not considered before.
Remember how we were in our 20's? Confused, stupid and sensitive and then some, but the new 20's year old are different. They are confident, egotistical and have a plan. I didn't think I would have one of these fine men, but I do. I think what scares me the most about him, he's what I asked for in a man. He's kind, generous, supportive, encouraging, intelligent and absolutely gorgeous to me. What's my hangup? To be honest I don't know. I have to know people for a certain amount of time to see they are really gonna be who they say there are. The thing about being 30's you are stuck in this slower mentality to not trust most people until they prove themselves.
This may sound like I am a crazy woman, but I got love for my 20 something but he doesn't seem to feel it from me. Why can't I drop the facade and let someone else love me? I have been hurt, upset and completely drained from my last relationship. Am I delusional in thinking someone else could love me? Yes these are all questions that perplex me on a day to day basis.
Ladies, I do not encourage that you date men in their 20's unless they seem to be driven and motivated by life's plan. I recommend to date any man who has the qualities that your are looking for regardless of age. In the past, I would not date a man unless he was older than me, but now in my 30's, men in their 30's are freeking boring and trying to play games. Who the hell wants that?
In my circle of friends, I have a few of them that date younger men and currently do. They want meaningful relationships with someone who loves and cherishes them.
I will say this ladies, love who you loves you. We have spent way too much time wondering what everyone "thinks" you should date. Fuck it. If he's 20 or 50 if he treats you right I say go for it.
Next article, I wanted to talk about divorce. This is something that we never want to discuss or that we even plan to do when we got married. But what are the alternatives? What type of relationship can we have after a marriage? I know I personally, marriage for me is one the most life changing events and I am not sure if that was the best move for me. As women we can decide whether to be or not be..Is that really the frickin question? This is destiny question for most women, hell there is an industry built upon women and gay men getting hitched. If the divorce rate is 50%, then we are doing something wrong. The choices that we make are going to directly affect family and children. If you have any questions or comments please hit me up at theomilab@gmail.com.
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